Missing: My Social Radar

"When asked to stay and watch a movie, the correct answer is usually yes."

This was what a good friend told me after we had just left the apartment of a friend of his.  The three of us had just spent a couple of awesome hours on a nearby bar's patio in the summer sun.  See, she had just invited me to stay with her and watch a movie when my buddy had to leave for a prior engagement.  I didn't quite clue in quickly enough.  I just zoned out and wasn't paying much attention to who was talking to who. Stupid, stupid stupid.

I'd never admit it by my immediate reaction was, "oh shit - he's right."

As the perpetually single buddy and all round "nice guy", I don't have much radar for these kinds of situations.  When he told me that she just had her boyfriend break up with her (over the phone no less, what a pussy), I took that to mean it was a sensitive subject and to avoid it.  You know, that take-the-high-road, be-a-good-guy and be-there-for-her-as-a-sounding-board position.

What he really meant was for it to be that, she's vulnerable and to be-there-for-her-as-a-revenge-via-rough-sex-board.

I totally flaked on the signs.  Even though I think noticed them.  I've met her before (she barely remembered me - not good) and she's a cool chick.  One of those ass-kicking, able to handle life kinda girls.  Cute as a button, not gonna model, but with big baby blues you can't help but notice.  And my buddy said she had significant "skills" when they dated.

There was a lot of smiling back and forth, slightly too long eye contact, and no awkward chatting when we were left alone.  Now I may get some credit by earlier inviting her to come for beers with some friends on our regular meet up night as she only lives a few blocks from me.  Guess I blew the execution after the (accidentally) smooth setup eh?

UPDATE:  She just added me on Facebook; she must have searched me through my buddy's friends list.  And no, she's not one of those 467,000 friend-padding types that need new friends to justify their existence. This just got a bit more dramatic, crap.